When you are in love and that love is interrupted by a breakup, you are bombarded with painful emotions. Sadness, depression and loneliness are just a few. You find it hard to think about anything else. You wonder what went wrong and the question "what should I do to get my back?" runs through your head again and again.
Numerous books, courses, forums, websites and blogs exist that try to answer that very question. Right now you need to best strategy to heal your broken relationship. Proceed carefully and act on what you mind tells you rather than what your heart tells you.
Wondering "what should I do to get my ex back?" can become a preoccupation at times like this. You want to do whatever gives you the best chance to rekindle the fire of that lost love. Here's some simple advice that will get you started on the right track.
First off, many people think that now is the time to start playing games. Don't. Trying to make your ex feel like you don't care or making them jealous is very common, but rarely works. Some people try this because it gives them a sense of power over what is happening to them. That feeling won't last long and you don't want your ex to come back as a result of your manipulation. You want them back because they love and miss you. No long term relationship can be built on deception or mind games.
Secondly, do your best to get control of your emotions. You may be feeling intense hurt and even anger right now. These strong emotions can make us do or say things that we normally wouldn't. If you do or say something vicious or mean, even in the heat of the moment, it may undermine any chance you had for reconciliation. As they say, you cannot un-ring a bell. Before talking to your ex make sure you are in the right frame of mind. Now, isn't the time to be accusatory or try to start a fight. In fact you must be prepared to leave those things in the past.
Thirdly, look inward at yourself and your behavior. Analyze what part you had in the breakup. Are you constantly trying to start an argument or nagging your ex about something? Would your ex look forward to seeing you again or would they dread it? You must leave these things in the past and be a person that your ex will miss and want badly to be with again. Just imagine how you would want your ex to act towards you when you are together. Don't make them walk on egg shells, make them comfortable and you'll find the romance will flow all that much easier. And that's the point of all this isn't it?
These are just the beginning steps in answering the question, "what should I do to get my ex back?" Take your time, take it slow and be open to resolve the issues that forced the break up in the first place.