This may come as a surprise to you but your partner really does enjoy sex. They actually might enjoy sex more than you do! It is a fact that women are more sensual creatures than men are and although you might enjoy the act of making love, a woman desires the whole package that includes the act that you desire more than almost anything in this world.
Let’s think about this for a second. What kind of movies and books do women read the most? Women tend to love romance novels and “chick flicks” which tend to be the film version of some of the most popular romance novels. And what tends to happen in most of these movies. Yes, at one point or another the guy gets the girl or the girl gets the guy…at some point.
So do you think that your woman is any different than any other woman in that she wishes that her life was somewhat like one of these romance novels at least to some degree? Don’t you think that when she reads these books or watches these movies she is the actress that she is watching at least in her mind? Don’t you think that she wishes that she had that sort of passion in her life?
But what does she have or what do you offer to her? If your idea of romance is climbing into bed, tapping her on the shoulder and asking her if she wants to get lucky…well, can you see why she might become disinterested in any sort of sexual intimacy with you after a while? If you’re literally asking her if she is interested in having sex you are turning her off every night and you need to stop that!
Now, I am not saying that you need to give her the cold shoulder or ignore her. Nor am I saying that you have to make every night a candlelit dinner with a path of rose petals leading to a artistically lit bedroom. That’s a good idea but chances are that if you try to pull this off it would be perceived almost as asking her to have sex…just without words. Get what I’m talking about.
So, what do you do? Well, it begins with the small things. It begins with kind words, loving embraces, a knowing glance and perhaps a heart felt “I love you….I mean, I really do love you…” as you look deeply into her eyes as you hold her face in your hands. It begins with talking to her more and watching the tv less. It begins with gentle touches when you are within an arm’s reach…it begins with a foot massage as she sits on the couch after a long day or an offer for a good back massage before bedtime with no expectation of having sex. And if you need some tips on how to give a really good massage just check online and get your technique down. Just remember…no expectations of having sex. You’re just a nice guy and want her to be happy…although you might be surprised by the reaction that you get once you’re done with thirty minutes of massaging her lower back and shoulders.
These techniques are just the beginning and perhaps you can remember some of the things that used to really turn your partner on. Armed with the knowledge of what gets your partners motor running and a good positive attitude before long you will be enjoying the sex life you once had or that you always dreamed of. You see, you have choices…you can have the sex life of an old married couple or you can have the sex life of a couple of newlyweds. There really isn’t any difference in the people since newlyweds can be of any age…it is all a matter of attitude and motivation.
If you need help in figuring out how to turn your partner on and how to seduce her with every aspect of your life so she actually starts asking you if you want to have sex, CR James book “Super Seduction Power” will help you get to that point. His methods will help you to tailor your seduction technique to your particular woman and change things around so quickly and powerfully that you might not feel that you are with the same woman anymore!