As natural as the dating process may be, there are a lot of unspoken rules that you should be aware of in order for things to sail smoothly. People generally try to appear at their best at the first date. One of the things that tend to occupy our minds when things go well during the date is when the guy will place a call.
The use of the phone is one of the things that you will find a lot of arguments and counter-arguments about. The general rule is that you should not call the guy. However, there are a few instances where it may be appropriate to do the calling.
When to make the first call
After your first date, you are strongly advised to avoid calling the guy. There is really just one case where this rule does not apply. During that initial date, the guy may have given you his number while you were not comfortable to give yours in return. It is then that the responsibility of making the first call will fall on you. This is the only exception to the rule of never calling a man after your first date since there are a lot of tacit rules in the dating game. Basically, if he is interested in you, he will surely call however late it may seem to you. When you call the guy just after a couple of days, you are likely to drive a wedge between you.
In case you have been dating for quite some time and you are already at ease with the relationship, should you change the pattern and start calling? Here too, the general rule is that you should not call - unless he has your word that you would do it, in which case he will be expecting it. Habits are very easy to form.
While you may see nothing wrong with calling just to find out how he is, you may soon find yourself doing it more often. On the other hand, the guy can easily get into the habit of waiting to hear from you.
Let him keep his promise
When your boyfriend says that he will call you at a certain time and you see no signs of the promised call, a lot of questions may race through your mind. Has his cell phone been stolen? Has he been involved in an accident? Or has he perhaps gone away with another girl? Don't scare yourself stiff and rush to call in order to find out if he is okay.
Give the man time to honor his promise. And you should not hole yourself up as you wait for his call. Have fun. This will help both of you as you won't brood over and begin to hate him.
Spice up your relationship by adding a bit of mystery. Let him wonder what is happening and he will call to find out.